June 9th, 2011
Seducing your date is going to be important if the chemistry is there and you want to go to another level. You can do this easily without being creepy. Here are three tips that will help you with the seduction game.
Learn to Listen
The first step in seduction is actually listening to your date. If you listen you can pick up on subtle clues as to what they like and don’t, this will also give you some idea of when to make your move, a date that tells you that they had a great time in Australia when they went to some swingers parties may well be open to a more direct approach.
These clues will help you later. Listening is also important because we tend to like talking about ourselves. If you allow your date to open up and speak freely you are giving them the green light to feel more comfortable with you.
Light Touching
Make yourself available to your date by employing light touching. Graze their shoulders when it’s appropriate. Place a hand over theirs when engaged in conversation. This shows your date that you are interested and you are forming a more intimate connection.
Don’t be Like Everyone Else
If you’re a guy, the last thing a woman wants is the same thing that all the other guys do on a date. Ignore the bombshell waitress when she serves the drinks and keep your focus on your date. Shower your date with positive attention without being creepy or cocky. If you’re a woman, don’t ask about his job or money. Get interested in sports. The point is to stand out in a positive way and gain his attention.
May 29th, 2011
Adult dating can be nerve wracking, especially for beginners. There are terms to learn, and certain behaviors that are deemed inappropriate. If you want to get involved in adult dating but don’t know where to start, here’s a quick guide.
Learn the Terms
When you start adult dating for the first time you will be inundated with terms and acronyms that you probably won’t know. Don’t worry; you don’t need to learn them all. A few of the more common ones are- NSA (no strings attached), FWB (friends with benefits), BBW (big beautiful woman). There are literally hundreds, if not thousands more. You can find great resources online that break down just about every acronym you can think of. In the beginning, just avoid the acronyms in your own profile and research the ones you run across that you don’t understand.
Learn the Rules
There are lots of unwritten rules when it comes to adult dating. Break one of these and you may find your profile deleted and banned from the site. The best thing to do to avoid this is to spend some time just looking around the forums to get a better idea of what is acceptable and what isn’t. The forums will also be a great resource for you to learn what different activities are. It can also help you meet others. Everyone was new to adult dating at some point, so your questions aren’t going to be anything they haven’t already heard.
April 3rd, 2011
Finding dating services for adults isn’t a difficult task if you know where to look and what to look for. There are several types of dating services available, and knowing the difference is going to help tremendously. Here are a few things you should know.
Online Dating Sites
If you have some spare time and don’t mind doing the legwork yourself, an online adult dating site may be a good option for you. With these sites you create a profile and tell other members about your interests and what you are looking for. You can then browse and be browsed. The nice thing is you do this all on your own time. So if you’re a night owl, you don’t have to wait for normal business hours to find a date. Most dating sites do charge a fee, but the fee is considerably lower than a professional matchmaker. Most sites will allow you to use a short trial to browse the site before you fork over a credit card number.
Professional Matchmakers
This is another good option for adults looking to find a good match. This option is more suited for those who have some extra money to spend and don’t have the time to do the searching on their own. A professional matchmaker will get some basic information from you, as well as more information. You will have to tell them about past relationships, experiences that did and didn’t work for you, and will have to provide some headshots or have photos taken. Some will also want you to do a video interview. From here they find matches they feel will be good for you, and set up on mini dates. If the chemistry is there, that’s fantastic. If not, you just go back to the drawing board and they find others for you.
March 30th, 2011
The profile is the most important aspect of online dating. If your profile looks like all the others, or is bland, you won’t get the attention you want. It may take months to meet a few people who are actually interested. Here are some great tips for making your profile stand out.
Be Specific
There isn’t a person on the planet who doesn’t like music, so saying in your profile that you enjoy music is just going to serve as filler. You need to be more specific. If you have a favorite band or style of music, you can talk about this. Take it a step further and explain why you like that particular band or style.
Be Funny
A profile should serve as a resume for the dating world. However, running across profiles where people have no sense of humor gets boring. Tell a funny story or make a few jokes. Just be sure that you don’t make the whole profile look like a joke.
Great Photos
Having great photos is probably going to be the best way to showcase your dating profile. Avoid doing anything obscene and don’t show anything terribly intimate. If another member wants to see more, they can ask. Remember to leave something to the imagination. You can find tips for taking photos that flatter you regardless of your size or race by finding a few photography forums. If you live near a school that offers photography classes, find a few students who are willing to shoot some artful pictures for their portfolios.
February 20th, 2011
Looking your best is vital when you are dating. Whether it’s your first or fifteenth date, you need to make sure you look good. Regardless of your shape or size there are things you can do to help increase your attractiveness. Here are a few tips.
Dress for Your Shape
If you are larger, wearing outfits designed for very petite women will make you look silly. Even plus sized women can look fantastic with the right clothing. You don’t have to be able to afford a personal stylist to pull this off. Simply look at your shape and do some internet research to find the best styles for you.
Dress Your Age
A 40 year old wearing clothing designed for juniors is going to come across as sad, and maybe even a little pathetic. You can be sexy at any age; you just need to keep it appropriate. Check out some style magazines that are marketed towards your age range to find the most stylish ways to dress.
Makeup
Makeup can enhance your appearance, but when applied wrong it can make you look silly. The best bet is to go light. If you are going out for a formal event or a dinner after dark, you can go a little more dramatic with the makeup. If you are unsure how to use colors effectively, consulting with a beautician can provide you with valuable tips, and they usually aren’t expensive. Most often you can get a makeover for under $50.
January 7th, 2011
If you are involved in a dating situation that is becoming more intimate in nature, there are a few things you want to keep in mind. This is a crucial time, and if you break the rules or guidelines you may find yourself back at the drawing board starting from scratch. Here are a few things to help you out.
Follow Their Lead
Always allow your partner enough space. This shows respect and will go a lot further than if you push them. This is especially true if you are a man. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t attempt to make a move, but it means you need to pause afterwards to assess the situation. If you get too pushy you will find yourself getting pushed right out the door.
Be Prepared
There is nothing worse than being on a date, it goes to an intimate level, and neither person is prepared with condoms. There is nothing wrong with carrying a couple condoms with you. Even women can do this without causing embarrassment. It’s much less embarrassing to have one fall out of your purse than to not have one when you need one. Carrying them also doesn’t mean you’re a slut, it just means you’re smart.
Setting Expectations
Don’t expect each and every encounter to be spectacular. We all have off days. As long as you have a sense of humor about it, even a not so great tryst can lead to further dates. Just relax and be yourself, let things happen naturally.